The Sword of Courteous Debate ([info]meowse) wrote,
2005-07-18 18:29:00
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My mother is dead.

Drunk driver. Car accident. Died last Wednesday. Memorial service this Friday.

I'm down in San Diego right now, with Deirdre and Ray, making arrangements for the service and with the mortuary, helping Deirdre and my dad to grieve.

My mother is dead.


Dirge Without Music
by Edna St. Vincent Millay

I am not resigned to the shutting away of loving hearts in the cold ground.
So it is, and so it will be, for so it has been, time out of mind.
Into the darkness they go, the wise and the lovely. Crowned
With lilies and with laurel they go; but I am not resigned.

Lovers and thinkers, into the earth with you.
Be one with the dull, the indiscriminate dust.
A fragment of what you felt, of what you knew,
A formula, a phrase remains_but the best is lost.

The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love_
They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.

Down, down, down into the darkness of the grave,
Gently they go, the beautiful, the tender, the kind,
Quietly they go, the intelligent, the witty, the brave.
I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.

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[info]elynne

July 19 2005, 01:44:20 UTC 6 years ago

Oh, no. I'm so sorry. I can't think of anything to say... *hughughug*

[info]caprine

July 19 2005, 01:52:12 UTC 6 years ago

Whoa. *hug*

[info]meowse

July 19 2005, 02:31:15 UTC 6 years ago

Call me, please, when you get a chance. I'm sure you still have my phone number somewhere. If not, email me yours, and I'll call you.

[info]caprine

6 years ago

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[info]meowse

6 years ago

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[info]zillah975

July 19 2005, 01:57:58 UTC 6 years ago

I'm so, so sorry. More than I have words for. *hugs hard*

[info]mira_fastfire

July 19 2005, 02:00:55 UTC 6 years ago

Oh my God...

But, my moose, who is helping YOU to grieve? Please, please, PLEASE feel free to call me. I will help you as best as I can.

[info]meowse

July 19 2005, 02:32:32 UTC 6 years ago

Mercifully, I had two days of my loved ones in Seattle taking care of me, before I had to come down here and take care of Deirdre and Ray. I'm doing okay.

Well, I was doing okay the first three days. Now, I'm managing.

I'll be better on Saturday, when I'm back up in Seattle and being taken care of myself again.

[info]mira_fastfire

6 years ago

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[info]meowse

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[info]wedschilde

July 19 2005, 02:04:15 UTC 6 years ago

::::hugs:::::

i am so so sorry mickey! please accept my heartfelt sorrow. god, i'm really sorry. if you need anything, love, please let us know.

[info]otterlot

July 19 2005, 02:23:10 UTC 6 years ago

Ohh... my sincerest condolences. I'm so sorry...

[info]lyonesse

July 19 2005, 02:25:23 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs*

[info]tylik

July 19 2005, 02:41:23 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs*

I don't have very much to say, but when I read this, a harp string broke, on my harp, right behind me.

[info]ihgreenman

July 19 2005, 02:55:07 UTC 6 years ago

OMG. I'm so sorry to hear that. *Hugs*

[info]silverseastar

July 19 2005, 03:03:26 UTC 6 years ago

I'm so sorry to hear this

*huge huge huge hugs*

[info]fierinferno

July 19 2005, 03:17:37 UTC 6 years ago

I'm very sorry, hun. If you need anything, if there is anything at all I can do to help even a little, please let me know.

[info]lirrin

July 19 2005, 03:23:47 UTC 6 years ago

I'm really sorry to hear that. *hugs*

[info]woggie

July 19 2005, 03:36:26 UTC 6 years ago

You have my condolences, and whether you want it or not, my sympathy.

[info]meowse

July 19 2005, 05:06:04 UTC 6 years ago

Thank you. *hugs*. Your sympathy is deeply appreciated. Thank you again.

[info]corva

July 19 2005, 03:56:37 UTC 6 years ago

I've sent words to your gmail. Some of these words are for your daughter. Please pass them along for me. Know we are thinking of you, our prayers are with you and that our door is always open to you both. You are loved.

[info]meowse

July 19 2005, 05:06:58 UTC 6 years ago

I did so. She said, "I love Jen." *smile*

We'd love to come down and visit you guys sometime soon, while Jordan is still there. Give us a week or two to get our heads back together, and we'll work out a time. *hugs*

[info]corva

6 years ago

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[info]nbarnes

July 19 2005, 04:31:53 UTC 6 years ago

*poke* *fuzzle*

[info]meowse

July 19 2005, 22:10:23 UTC 6 years ago

Mew.

*sigh*

[info]drewkitty

July 19 2005, 04:43:04 UTC 6 years ago

My condolences on your untimely loss. Please take care of yourself and of your loved ones.

[info]nolly

July 19 2005, 04:48:47 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs* to you all, especially Deirdre. Call me if I can help.

[info]wild_irises

July 19 2005, 05:03:46 UTC 6 years ago

I had heard this and I am so, so sorry.

(I read the same poem at my mother's graveside almost two years ago ...)

[info]mamishka

July 19 2005, 05:23:56 UTC 6 years ago

*tender hugs - fervent prayers - loving thoughts*

If you need anything, if there is something I can do for you, you have only to ask.

[info]luvs2dance40

July 19 2005, 06:03:31 UTC 6 years ago

Mickey,

I am so incredibly sorry. Hugs to both you and Deidre. I think of both of you often.

[info]leannan_sidhe

July 19 2005, 06:28:54 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs* to you and Deirdre both.

[info]candle_light

July 19 2005, 06:33:40 UTC 6 years ago

I'm so so sorry. My deepest sympathies to you and yours.

[info]kiarapanther

July 19 2005, 07:11:43 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs* I'm in San Diego until Wednesday night. Wish there was something I could do.

[info]samvimes

July 19 2005, 07:14:28 UTC 6 years ago

How awful. I'm very sorry, Mickey. (hugs)

May love find ways to ease your sorrow.

[info]senssuzy

July 19 2005, 10:01:23 UTC 6 years ago

Hugs from me too!

[info]evilqueenrinoa

July 19 2005, 07:25:32 UTC 6 years ago

*hugs*
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